A few days ago, our washing machine broke. We knew it was coming. The unconscionably expensive thing started to go down hill very fast as soon as the warranty was out of date. We bought a new one that–get this–sings little tunes at the end of each cycle. Yes, I know, it’s not exactly a selling point, but come on. It sings. And now, I can do full loads of clothes and they come out clean in just one cycle! It turns out that being able to significantly cut down on the amount of laundry I’m behind on puts me in one heck of a good mood. A friendly mood. A nice mood.
I was going to go get a shower and Husband was coming with me. We do that often. It’s a habit we got into long ago, and 99% of the time it’s not a sexual thing. Just a habit we have. It’s a time where we stop, talk about our day, our plans, and just reconnect for a few private moments when the kids are in bed. I felt like doing something special for him, and whipped up some more vanilla lemon sugar scrub to use on him. I washed him with a new, fluffy wash cloth and some eucalyptus mint soap, followed by exfoliating him with the sugar scrub.
It’s amazing how just the simple act of washing each other, that simple act of care, affection, and love draw us together, no matter how far apart our minds had been a few minutes before. The stress of the day just melts and for a few moments we are simply together. There’s no pressure, no worries, no responsibilities dragging us in a multitude of directions. We are simply sharing a small space and being who we are together. We feel comforted, calm, loved. If we make love after these moments, it is often the best we have. Taking that time out allows both of us to be in tune with the other’s needs and desires. Sometimes we try something new. Sometimes we fall on old, comforting standards. Either way, that level of connection can’t be beat.