The (Sometimes) Importance of Being Blunt

It had been a few days for us.  If you’ve been paying attention, you know that we don’t do well with dry spells.  They make us cranky and eventually we fall into a rut that takes effort to get out of.   Husband was busy being a little stressed over what (if anything) vacation may entail this year, plus extra stuff at work and trying to find the mystery noise in the car.  Needless to say, he was a bit distracted.

“We plan on having sex tonight, don’t we?” I asked him one afternoon.

“I think so,” he replied.

That evening nothing happened.  Work and stress and chores got in the way.  Eventually we just watched TV.

The next afternoon, I said, “We’re having sex tonight, right?”


“Good, because I could really use some time with you.”


That night was a repeat of the night before.  The next few days were the same.  More stress, more work, more exhaustion, and a stunning lack of sex.

Finally, while sitting next to him one afternoon, I said, “If you don’t have sex with me, I’m going to kill you.”  Yeah, I get that it looks a bit dramatic on the screen.  Of course I was being factitious.   I don’t want anyone to get any strange ideas.  Stay with me for a minute.

Husband looked up from his computer screen.  “Well, finally!” he huffed.  “It took you long enough!  Why didn’t you say anything before?”

There isn’t an eyeroll big enough for my feelings.


The (Sometimes) Importance of Being Blunt — 2 Comments

  1. First of all, thanks for awesome blog, I first found this when I was trying to find a toy for my wife’s birthday present (I bought We Vibe 4 after reading your review, can’t wait to see how she likes it. B-day is in 2 weeks!)

    Secondly, I’m sorry if any faults in my writing, I live in Finland and don’t speak English natively 😉

    Anyways, as being a man, I feel the urge to reply here with some male perspective. We’ve had the same thing happening very now and then. First we agree to have sex in the evening, but then I feel she’s having no interest but only for watching tv etc.. And I don’t want to push it for her, so we skip it for that day (and maybe same thing on the next day also).

    It can go like that for some days and the anxiety just grows. Finally we’re both pissed as hell and sex is like the last thing in mind -at all- but finally we end up discussing about the matter and we find out that both has been horny for long time but when neither does “the move”, we both thought the other just wasn’t in the mood.

    Sometimes when this kind of thing is goin on, I kind of know already what’s up, but I’d just like to have my wife to make the move because sometimes it just feels like I’m the more active one in our sexual area..
    Like when you ask for the sex in the morning, maybe the husband was waiting for your “move” in the evening, and when you didn’t make it, he thought your mood had changed.

    Hard to explain but I hope you know what I mean. 🙂

    Again, thank you for the awesome blog! Keep up the good work you’re doing! Maybe I’ll introduce my wife with this blog also 😉

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