|Little Deeper Cushion|
Husband and I have a varied and healthy sex life. That includes fellatio. I don’t have any philosophical problems with it, since we believe in variety and Husband greatly enjoys it, but I’ve always had a physical issue. Although I’ve had a bit of jaw pain every now and then, it was fleeting and vanished in a few moments. However, no matter what position I was in, I ended up with nasty muscle pain in my neck and shoulders. I could go for about 10 or 15 minutes before the tense pain showed up. If it was a day where he was taking 20 or 30 minutes, I had two options: push through or stop. If I pushed through, I’d be sore. If I stopped, we’d both be disappointed, although Husband always says I’m free to stop if I need to (and sometimes I do).
We’ve experimented with different positions. Laying between his legs, both on our sides, him standing with me kneeling, him sitting and me laying, him sitting and me kneeling, me sitting with him standing…the list goes on. Then I started reading some better sex books, and even some that were all about fellatio. My technique improved, but no matter what, the neck and shoulder pain came.
And then…and then…I found it. The position. A position that I can stay in for a half hour or 45 minutes with no pain and no lasting soreness. Not only do I not get sore, but we’re able to look at and touch each other without anything in the way.
This magic position involves Husband slumping on the couch, with his upper back against the back of the couch, his butt forward, feet on the floor, knees wide. Meanwhile, I’m sitting on my Little Deeper Cushion with my rear on the higher part, and my legs folded on the lower part. The cushion is very, very important. Not a pillow, not a towel, but specifically the Little Deeper Cushion. It holds me in the perfect position with little to no stress on my arms, shoulders, and neck. Now I’m much happier and more willing, which makes him happier, too.